So long, everyone, I'm going to Italy!
|My world in Zagarolo|
In the last week before I leave, especially, I begin to question my sanity. What is this compelling force that pushes me to challenge myself, year after year, when others seem more content to hear about adventures than to have any of their own? The urge to become more has been such a strong force in my life, from an early age even, that trying to understand it was the focus of my graduate education, as well as the career I chose as a psychologist/personal coach. Indeed, the name of my coaching practice is Become More, as is the title of this blog.
As I learned techniques that allowed me to challenge myself more effectively, I was able to develop classes to teach others how to do the same. As I learned about effective risk-taking, developing a tolerance for ambiguity and building mental toughness, I shared these concepts with clients and students. For several decades, I helped others to crystallize and then go after their most cherished dreams. After a time, however, the need to achieve my own dreams became more compelling than helping others to do so.
|living the dream, Firenze, 2010|
And on the horizon, another opportunity has presented itself: a chance to live in a villa! The family of one of my Italian friends has invited me to live in their family villa, located in a small village south of Padova. In fact, they would pay me to do so. The villa is quite large, and has some historical significance, as Napoleon once spent the night there. It sounds almost too good to be true! And yet there are some challenges to consider: the most pressing ones are that the villa has not been modernized and there is no internet connection. Due to the thickness of the villa walls, an internet key would probably not be sufficient for the work that I do. However, since the opportunity has come up, I need to check it out, which means I need to plan a trip to Padova sometime this spring to meet with the family and see the villa. After all, an aged aunt lived in the villa until recently, and she was almost 106! If she could cope with the place, surely I can!
If there's one thing I've learned about making dreams come true, it's this: it is essential to act when an opportunity presents itself that is aligned with your goals. Perhaps it will not work out, or perhaps it will...one can never know unless we put ourselves out there, push through the anxiety of not knowing what comes next, and see what happens. Since my goal is to spend more time in Italy, and living in this villa could offer me a more permanent residence, it's compelling me to consider the possibilities.
It's time to go, to push the envelope, embracing the chance to become more, eager to enjoy more of my new life in a new land.